My First Blog Post
It's official, we have a blog!
I have finally decided to take the plunge and add a blog to the Yana web page. I have always wanted an easy way to share information with visitors and am super excited to start this journey. Keep coming back to check for new posts! Our first post is about... How to accomplish goals and raise your self-esteem…
Taken in part from "A Woman's Self-Esteem" by Nathaniel Braden
One of the most potent ways of raising self-esteem, and thereby getting more satisfaction in life and being happier, is by converting wishes and desires into purposes. The trouble is, most people don't know how. If people understand the idea of operating purposefully at all, they are most likely to understand it in the workplace. They are least likely to understand its application in their personal life. Here is what I mean...
One of my clients, I’ll call her Caroline, felt herself torn between her love life, her many women friends, and her career as owner of a highly successful flower business. “I would like to be a better partner to Max. I really care for him, but he complains I don’t give us enough time. I’m always in a rush or on the telephone." "What would you like to be different?" I inquired. She seemed puzzled by the question. “I’d like both of us to be happier in our relationship." " What do you see yourself doing that would make both of you happier?" "I'd help create a better relationship?" She said, a little tentatively. "Good, if that’s your purpose, what actions would you need to take to create a better relationship?" Clearly this line of questioning had not occurred to her. “I’m embarrassed to admit that I don’t know. I know that my purpose at work is to increase sales 20% this year, for which you better believe I have an action plan! But, I guess I don’t really have a purpose for this relationship, just a wish.” Caroline embarked on, what she called “an interesting experiment,” to learn what would happen if she brought as much focus and purpose to improving her relationship with Max as she brought to her business activities. This meant, among other things, taking charge of her time so that her relationship with Max did not suffer from malnutrition. Today she is successful in both areas of her life.
Here is how to make your desires a purpose:
- Ask yourself what actions you would need to take to achieve your purpose/goal, in reality, rather than just dream about it.
- Design an action plan and begin to implement it, step-by-step.
- Monitor your progress and pay attention to the outcome of your actions.
- Adjust your plans and behavior as necessary to keep yourself on track.
Doing this, moving your desires and dreams into an purpose with an action plan to make it happen will give a great sense of personal power and increase your self-worth and self-esteem. If you find yourself sabotaging your dreams/purpose, figure out why, then try again.
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